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5 Things Your College Aged Kid Wants You to Know

Navigating your kids' journey to college is a mix of excitement and nerves as they step into the unknown. Offering support, cheering them on, and recognizing the uniqueness of each student's path is crucial in this major life transition. As a senior at the University of South Carolina, I vividly recall the mix of emotions during my freshman year, particularly the fear in the dining hall. What I needed most from my parents was a listening ear, understanding, and reassurance that it was okay not to have everything figured out immediately.

Although I am 1 of 208,000 young adults enrolled in college in South Carolina, each of these journeys looks different and being there to support your child and adapt to their needs is key.

Here is a list of important things to remember as your child enters this new phase.

1. Independence and Support Matters

Your college-aged child values their newfound independence, but they still need your emotional support. Be a source of encouragement and guidance as they navigate the challenges of adulthood. If your college-aged child feels uncertain about their major or career path, provide emotional support by actively listening, guiding them in exploring interests, and reassuring them that it's okay to take time. Your encouragement is crucial as they navigate the challenges of adulthood and make important decisions about their future.

2. Communication is Key

Keep the lines of communication open. Listen actively, share experiences, and respect their opinions. Regular check-ins, whether through calls, texts or visits go a long way in maintaining a strong bond. If you aren’t hearing from your child as much as you would like, don’t stress! They are busy navigating a new stage in their life and experiencing all the exciting things that come with that. One thing that works for my mom is setting a time to talk and catch up on our week Sunday afternoons, as it fits in to both of our schedules.

3. It is a Balancing Act

Understand the delicate balance between giving them space to grow and being a supportive presence. Offer assistance when needed but allow them the room to make decisions and learn from their experiences. Allow them to take charge of their study schedule, set academic goals, and seek help from professors independently. This empowers them to navigate the challenges of academic life while still having the assurance that support is available when needed.

4. Respect their Boundaries

Recognize and respect their need for privacy. While you want to stay involved, ensure you're not overstepping boundaries. Establishing trust and mutual respect is crucial during this transitional phase. Communicating openly about boundaries and expectations such as when it's okay to knock before entering their room or respecting their online space, fosters a sense of mutual understanding and reinforces trust.

5. Encourage Exploration

College is a time for exploration, both academically and personally. Encourage them to pursue their passions, try new things, and embrace opportunities for self-discovery. Your support in their journey of self-exploration will strengthen your relationship.

As your child explores new horizons in college, encouraging their passions and self-discovery opens the door to a fresh chapter in your relationship. By supporting their journey, you become a guide for them, offering insights into their growth and reminding them of the foundation they’ve built since birth. This shared reflection on their journey not only strengthens your bond but also allows you to enter a new side of your relationship — one that encourages and celebrates their independence while cherishing the connection you've made over the years.

This transition can feel awkward and scary, but taking these small steps can help make this transition more comfortable for you and for them.

In this exciting chapter of parenthood, remember to be their cheerleader from the sidelines and the one they can always count on. Embrace the journey and enjoy watching your college-aged child spread their wings!

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